Rom-Com Queens

Let’s set the scene.

It’s a Tuesday night. Somewhere out there, a woman in pajama pants, a messy bun, and a mug that says “Shhh, I’m Plotting a Love Scene” is typing furiously. Her cats are judging her. There’s a half-eaten cookie on her desk. She's just named her new male protagonist Luca because it "sounds like abs." And you know what? She’s having the time of her life.

She is one of The Gals Who Rom-Com It—the women who write romance stories with the passion of a teenager and the plot-twisting prowess of a soap opera villain. And many of these women? They’re single. Maybe a little lonely. Possibly older than the heroine who just fake-dated her way into a marriage proposal. But they are not sad. Oh no. They are thriving—inside a fictional universe of their own delicious making.

So what’s the deal? Why do so many single women, especially those flying solo later in life, love writing romance?

Grab your beverage of choice, friend. We're diving into the gloriously glittery world of the rom-com writer’s psyche.

Because No One's Ghosting You in Fiction (Unless It’s a Literal Ghost, in Which Case, Hot)

Let’s be honest. Dating after 35 is… an adventure. The apps are a wasteland. You’ve seen more shirtless bathroom selfies than you ever asked for. Men your age are either “looking for something casual” or “just figuring things out right now” (sir, you're 52).

So What Do The Gals Who Rom-Com It Do?

They invent men. Men who read books. Men who talk about feelings without breaking into hives. Men who make spontaneous grand gestures involving fairy lights, vintage record players, or rescue dogs in need of a home.

It’s not that they’re delusional. It’s that they’re tired of having conversations that begin with, “Hey, you up?” and end with, “Sorry, I’m emotionally unavailable because of my pet iguana.”

Because Romance Is Cheaper Than Therapy—and You Get to Pick the Soundtrack

Writing romance is like emotional karaoke. You belt out every feeling—loneliness, hope, lust, fear of dying alone surrounded by houseplants—but in a way that ends with someone finally getting kissed in the rain.

It’s cathartic. You can exorcise heartbreak through your heroine. You can rewrite your worst date into a hilarious meet-cute at a farmer’s market. You can give your main character everything you wanted but never got: closure, passion, personal growth, and maybe a guy who bakes sourdough bread.

Also, let’s not discount how fun it is to choreograph the perfect kiss while listening to 90s R&B on repeat. It’s basically emotional Pilates.

Because Who Doesn’t Love a Man You Can Edit?

The love interests in romance novels are not perfect. But they’re perfect-able. They start out flawed (grumpy, guarded, hiding a secret identity as the prince of Luxembourg), but they grow. They apologize. They bring flowers and mean it.

Fictional men come with a built-in arc. They don’t leave dishes in the sink and then defend it with “That’s just how I am.” They can be tall, sensitive, broody, kind, wickedly funny, devastatingly handsome, emotionally literate, and slightly damaged—but, like, in a hot way.

Writing romance means you get to create the kind of man you deserve. It’s not lowering standards. It’s customizing them.

Because Love Doesn’t Expire (But Milk Does)

One of the magical things about writing romance as a single older woman is that you know stuff. You’ve been around the block. Maybe cried on it. Maybe danced on it. You’ve lived through love, loss, questionable fashion choices, and entire decades of bad advice from women’s magazines.

And all that experience? Gold for writing nuanced, swoony, real stories.

You know that love at 47 can be just as heady, ridiculous, and gut-punchingly sweet as it is at 22—only with better snacks and a firmer understanding of boundaries.

You also know that sometimes, the second act is better than the first. (And the third act is just getting good.)

Because Plotting a Romance Is Way More Fun Than Plotting a Revenge Fantasy

Let’s not lie. It would be easy to spend your evenings mentally designing elaborate revenge arcs on people who wronged you.

But The Gals Who Rom-Com It? They channel that energy into fiction. They take all that emotion and transform it into scenes where two people fall in love while renovating a crumbling inn, or slowly realizing they’re soulmates while trapped in an elevator with a goat.

It’s not just fun—it’s alchemy.

Besides, writing about two enemies forced to share a canoe on a team-building retreat is more satisfying than writing about the ex who stole your blender. (But you can still name the villain after him. That’s the beauty.)

Because Hope Is Contagious—and Romance Is Hope With a Lip Gloss Finish

In a world where everything seems to be crumbling, romance reminds us that good things can still happen. That people can grow. That love can surprise you, even when you’ve stopped looking for it.

Romance writers are hope dealers. They trade in possibility. And for single women who have every reason to feel jaded, writing love stories is a bold act of rebellion. It’s saying: “I believe in joy. I believe in connection. I believe in a plot twist where everything turns out okay.”

Even if it’s fictional, it’s powerful.

Cue the Sparkles

So why do single, lonely, maybe-a-little-wrinkly-but-still-fabulous women love writing romance?

Because it’s thrilling. It’s healing. It’s fun. It’s a declaration that love stories aren’t just for the young or the lucky. They're for anyone with a heart that still dares to feel something—even if that heart also loves solo pizza nights and refuses to download TikTok again (because I love animals and am tired of people exploiting their sick and dying ones!).

The Gals Who Rom-Com It don’t write to fill a void. They write because they own the stage, the pen, and the glittery, kiss-filled, slow-dance-in-the-moonlight universe.

And they’re just getting started.